The reason “It Gets Better” caught on with politicians and celebrities is because it’s great PR and it requires absolutely NOTHING from them in the way of real action.

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I just need that entire comment on my blog:

It’s just a bullshit PR campaign, nothing more. Telling kids to put up with bullying until they leave school is not constructive advice. It’s cruel. School boards, school administrators, teachers, etc., need to have zero tolerance policy for bullying. It’s not uncommon for teachers to bully unpopular kids themselves. That’s where the changes need to be made. But that requires action, and it requires standing up to conservatives who fight anti-bullying campaigns tooth and nail (often claiming that bullying gay people is a christian right). The reason “It Gets Better” caught on with politicians and celebrities is because it’s great PR and it requires absolutely NOTHING from them in the way of real action.

It’s cruelty to tell a kid to tolerate bullying. And to whom is this campaign even directed? The fat gay kids that Savage makes fun of himself? It’s a campaign aimed at good looking white boys with great bodies and upper middle class families. Yes, THEY will do better once they start hitting the gay bars. But for most average looking kids from working class families, they will find a gay community that’s often very much like High School, with cliques and teasing and rejection. Gay kids need to get support from society, and the kids that need that most are the kids that Savage himself would mock and demonize; kids of color, working class and poor kids, fat kids, kids with acne, and kids who are otherwise marginalized in society AND in our community.

Even when you look at the videos on YouTube, you see politicians who’ve come out against marriage equality, sports teams that would never accept a gay person in their ranks, and celebrities who just want some good press. The gay kids who participate are often great looking white boys, who you know will be accepted in the gay community, and are already leading charmed lives. It’s a campaign for the people Savage likes…sexy white male teenagers with athletic bodies who will be greeted with open arms.

I’ll take the campaign seriously when Savage speaks out on behalf of marginalized gay kids, and criticizes the gay community for its racism and other prejudices. But he’s the biggest bigot and bully of the bunch, and that’s been proven from his many years as a “columnist.” I often couldn’t believe how conservative, prejudiced, and intolerant he was in those columns.”

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Also trans people. 

Dan Savage doesn’t care about the T, and he’s been actively, grossly cissexist on many distinct occasions. 

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Not to mention asexuals, women, lower-class people, etc.
Let’s face it kids, Dan Savage is the most hypocritical douchebag in the queer rights movement.

But yes I agree with everything that has been posted above. 

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don’t forget that he thinks bisexuals in general need to “make up their mind” and that male bisexuals are essentially unicorns

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I once had an extended argument over when he was glitter-bombed because he’s a huge hypocritical transphobe. You can’t claim to be a trans* ally and then hurl transphobic slurs at your enemies. There’s no complicit-by-ignorance-and-stupidity argument to be made there - that’s just straight up transphobia. He is not an ‘activist.’ He is making a great living by essentially capitalizing on the intersection of his hegemonic identities and a burgeoning pinkwashed economy.

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liking all the commentary here, and yeah that’s always bugged me about the “it gets better” campaign; it should be made better for kids NOW, not just waiting for them to get older and for their life to stop sucking

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savage doesnt give a shit about #rape victims either oohh tss….

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I think we all agree that dan savage is a stinky, puckered asshole.

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Agree with everything mentioned, and adding more links

General list


Transmisogyny and whorephobia

This old but still equally disgusting bit of transmisogyny and repeated misgendering of a trans woman

YFIP page w/ a fuckload of links

Another page o his general shittiness

A really racist comment

(I’ve probably doubled up on some links but w/e)

And this is just from like, the first page of google. I also wanna mention that he has a penchant to call other gay/lesbian people f*gs and d*kes which is never ok, unless the person has explicitly said that’s an ok term to use cor them.

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Anonymous asked: One thing I really, really hate about this guy is his complete disrespect for Religion and disregard of people who are religious as intelligent people. By his logic, if you say you're Christian/Muslim/Jewish/whatever else, you're clearly ignorant and lack the mental capacity to understand the world in any way shape or form. I've been raised Catholic but I'm bisexual, my very religious dad accepts me for it, my great aunt who is even more religious than my dad is a lesbian! Religion =/= ignorance

Yes, and there are plenty of homophobic atheists, too.  Religion may, perhaps, motivate the more extreme homophobes, but otherwise, it seems to have little influence on homophobia.  I wouldn’t even say that its origin is religion.  It seems more like the handful of verses referencing it were a convenient argument.  Its origin, rather, seems to me to be more in gender-policing than anything else. Historically, it seems to be strongest when gender roles are challenged in society.


wow, I never realized quite how horrible Dan Savage is, with friends like these…

Anonymous asked: Hi! I was going through your blog(and thanks for all your work btw) and saw your answer to an ask where you said aces who cis and heteroromantic should be a bit careful when using the term queer and i was wondering if you consider the same for cis aromantics? Cause I'm one and i don't really know if i fall into the queer spectrum...

You know, that’s actually a complicated question and something I have to think about.


Anonymous asked: I first hear of Mr. Savage because I had heard about his biphobic remarks and came across the fact that he said some very rude things about Republicans. Though, I consider myself a Democrat and am a strong advocator for the democratic party, I do not approve of him saying things like"I wish they [Republicans] were all f--king dead". Seriously?! And this is coming from a man who supposedly "encourages" acceptance. Later he apologized, but still, is this really someone to look up to?

Anonymous asked: Still remembering the video when he said, "Bisexuals don't like it when I tell them the truth about bisexuals." Like dude OF COURSE you know bisexuality better than ACTUAL BISEXUALS. It's not like you should be considering AN ACTUAL BISEXUAL'S OPINION ON WHAT BISEXUALITY IS ACTUALLY LIKE OR ANYTHING. It's not like you can be WRONG about bisexuals because "oh i used to identify as bi even though it didn't suit me" and "i knew this ONE bi person who blah blah blah" fuck no, dan savage

Anonymous asked: do you think you can somehow get this out? Mostly to european people, but in this years Eurovision the favorite is Aram MP3, but he is problematic because he has made transphobic comments about Austrian contestant Conchita Wurst and homophobic comments about avoiding a gay hangout place at a park in his country. I dont think someone like him should win if he is gonna behave like that. But maybe if people knew about the shitty things he said, he wont


If during the living hell of deeply suicidal queer adolescence, a complete stranger who looked & sounded nothing like me knocked on my door & didn’t listen or look me in the eye or give me money or information, but instead stared at the wall just over my shoulder and said “calm down now, everything will be fine someday”

That is how I perceive the “It Gets Better” project

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Acephobia in the LGBT+ Community from the documentary (A)sexuality. 

It is just…so fucking weird how threatened people feel when it comes to Asexuality.  I still can’t wrap my mind around it.

I’m so happy this post is being reblogged by LBGT+ people who aren’t asexual. I keep on reading posts by non-ace LGBT+ people of support to the ace community, and of being stunned by this reaction by a movement which should know better than to judge. AND THAT MAKES THIS ACE SO FREAKING HAPPY. The woman in the first photo expresses my sentiment. I know I belong in the queer/LGBTQIA movement. I want to belong. But I just don’t know if I’m welcome. I’m so happy that there are so many people on Tumblr who do not fall into the catagory of outright refusal of asexuality.

I know not a lot of people understand asexuality. And I know there’s confusion about it, about our experiences, and about how we fit in the movement. But let’s talk about this. Let’s have this conversation.

I mostly don’t delve into the ace tags, but I hear there’s a lot of ace-hate that and I really don’t get it.  I don’t understand how asexuality is threatening.

You know what I (as a queer ace-spectrum person) find most threatening?  Getting unwanted sexual unwanted advances from both queer and straight people. I’ve gotten them from people of all spectrums and it always makes me profoundly uncomfortable, and often unsafe.  It just boggles my mind how people are upset by the concept of asexuality.  That’s like getting really mad at someone who isn’t hungry.  What’s the point?  Just shut up eat your own sandwich. (And stop chewing on me.)

Wow, the fuck the people in those images.

Nobody has the right to disrespect anybody else’s sense of self. It may not be for, you but that does not give you the right to be an asshole.

We really need to push more for LGBTQIA+ to be a standard, instead of just LGBT, especially considering that even the B and T are already invisible in much of the community.

Not supporting some of us = not supporting all of us.

Who does asexuality threaten? 

What’s your damage if someone is asexual? Is that some kind of shattering blow to your ego, that someone may not want to have sex with you? Do you need reinforcement for your sexuality so badly that you feel the need to shun someone just because they don’t share it?

Pathetic and hypocritical.

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"Fuck No, Dan Savage" was created to showcase the cissexist, sexist, anti-asexual, anti-bisexual, classist, racist, sizeist, and ableist douchebaggery of Dan Savage, of "It Gets Better" (for privileged queers only) fame.

It's currently moderated by Kerry (basicallykerry), Christy (sciencefangirl), Phineas (expectedly) and Em (epiphenomenon).

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